How do I reach an orgasm?

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On December 26, 2018

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Is it OK to fake an Orgasm?

Is there something wrong with a woman that has not experienced an orgasm?

These are a couple of questions that I have been getting asked more and more, so I thought why not address them through my articles? As much as I have written this for my ladies, men you can benefit from reading this little bit of info also!

There is nothing physically wrong with women that have not experienced the big O! They simply just have not learned how. It is very much a mental exercise as well as physical. Way back when…, we were taught that it was a bad thing to touch ourselves (masturbate). That was a big wrong turn for a lot of women. I have read a lot of letters from women that tell me that they were in their late 20`s before they ever experienced an orgasm, one that they would consider an orgasm anyway. This is why I express over and over, ladies learn about YOUR BODY! Orgasms are very connected to ones mind when dealing with the female. If you are worried or tired or feeling a bit at odds with your partner, that door is definitely going to be locked, even nailed shut. It will take some work and patience to find the key to open up that mind trap.’

Too many women spend way too much time worrying about orgasms. Worry only puts up the walls that will totally disable your mind to relax and float. Think of watching and waiting for water to boil. By the time it has boiled you have lost interest. Or when you are trying to call someone and the line is forever busy, that just frustrates you to no end. If you would have just carried on with something else at the time, the water would have boiled before you knew it, the phone line would be cleared, and you would be frustration free! Orgasms work in very much the same way. Do not think about them. Do prepare for them, feel your body call them, desire them, fantasize, open your mind up to a total zone of passion. Pure thoughtless passion!

Some women feel that if they do not orgasm, their partner will feel that they have failed them, or vice verse. (GUILT) There is absolutely no room for guilt or shyness in the arena of sex! This is one of the reasons women FAKE the O! It does not do any real physical harm to fake most things in life. The only one that is losing out though, is you. You are fooling no one but yourself. Then you end up feeling even worse because you pretended at a time when you should be open and real.

There is also the time thing. Women are in need of more stimulation and time to relax and be able to find their zone. Men tend to think that five minutes is just super…NOT…so ladies this is where communication comes into play. You must tell your man that NO, I am not there yet. I know this sounds bossy, but most men hardly ever have a problem telling the women what to do in bed and when to not stop. Also ladies please tell your man to do like the yellow pages commercial, “Let your fingers do the walking”. Women like and need the finger play. Also ladies if your man is just down there asap…tell him to slow down. This can also throw women off when they are feeling rushed.

When you are close to your partner and feel that sex is in the air, enjoy even just the kiss at first. I mean really enjoy just the kiss. Allow your body to warm up and get your juices flowing. Or really feel his touches, and listen to your partners voice when he says your name. If he never says your name, tell him too. He will oblige immediately. Tell him you want to hear him admire your body. A women on the norm has a hard time verbalizing what she likes. This is just because we were raised to be nice girls. Well, TALK! You will be surprised at how much more relaxed you become and excited once you can talk to your partner about touching where and how. Tell your partner to join you in that little game. A women’s body will react very nicely if you just allow the feelings of a kiss to penetrate you.

Another turn on for you ladies is to touch yourself while your partner watches. Yes, you will love it once you allow him into your world. He will not say no to that request. To see or hear how excited he gets watching you enjoying your body is another very big turn on for you. This is also a very good way to keep your mind away from the, “will I or won`t I” question. Think of anything but the ultimate O!

G-spot orgasms are pretty easy to reach. We can get there as easy as men have the ability to get hard. To get there just tell your man to do the, “walking”. Or take his hand and guide him down to where your body is wanting his touch. G-Spot orgasms feel nice and they are basically our juice fountain, that is when we get very wet. This is when your body prepares for penetration.

It is the clitoral Orgasm that most women are after. Those ones will shake your ground. But again, these are mind connected. I will say I am speaking for the norm of women. Every women is different to a degree, but we are basically after the same thing. We all want to feel that intense vibration and the total body rush that runs through our body. It is an adrenaline rush like no other. To know we have that kind of control in our minds and bodies also boosts our self-esteem! That my Ladies is a very good thing!

Some women are sensitive enough that they will react instantly to a touch. That is not always that good. Her orgasm at that point will be quick and over before she even gets to really appreciate it. The longer it takes to reach that ,”O” Zone, the more intense the orgasm. That is another reason you want to learn to control your body. Eventually you will be able to tell your mind when and where!

A very, very good way to learn about your body is to bring yourself to orgasm. I tell women that all the time. You need to know and be able to connect with your own mind before you can allow someone to do it for you. Once you can learn to control your minds ability to fantasize or totally zone out, your body will follow naturally. Ladies again, it is so important to learn this because it keeps your mind off whether or not the O is going to happen. Once you have learned about your body, you will be able to bring that O on yourself just with your mind. A little hand stimulation is also your minds best friend here. You will know how much stimulation you will need at the time. You will eventually know your entire body`s secret passages to feeling. Yes! Very yummy. So my words here, are to get to know your secrets.. and HAVE FUN!

Remember Ladies, men are not born with your road map to orgasm. First you need to draw it for him. Then show it to him. From there it is totally the big,” O” every time. This is my recipe to the one thing that women can do over and over again, without a rest period. Ha!! Sorry guys, we were born that way.

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Laughter and Orgasms are Great Bedfellows

John Callahan

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When modern woman discovered the orgasm, it was combined with modern birth control, perhaps the biggest single nail in the coffin of male dominance.

Eva Figes

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Don’t Choker! Understanding the BDSM Collar

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On November 27, 2018

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The BDSM collar is widely known but significantly less understood. It´s a symbolic necklace (or, more likely a choker) that represents the power dynamic in a BDSM relationship. The meaning behind the collar is different for different couples. For some, it is a symbol of their commitment to the BDSM lifestyle and as an indication of someone´s sub status in the BDSM community. For others, it signifies ownership and control.

The standard form is a black leather choker with an O or D shaped ring which allows you to attach a rope or some other restraint. These can even be replaced by day collars which are more discreet and usually made of gold or silver, thus allowing a sub to be collared 24/7 and removing the need to break the relationship.

The collar more generally represents the power exchange between a dom and his sub, and for this reason there is a very particular process involved. There are three main stages in this so-called collaring process:

Collar of Consideration

The easiest way to think about this first stage is to imagine this as a surface-level commitment, representing something quite similar to a promise ring. This first collar can be removed by the sub at any time, and is worn throughout the period of consideration.

Training Collar

The training collar is indicative of a relationship progressing past the period of consideration, and might be worn for up to one year thereafter.  Think of this collar as the engagement ring in our analogy, since the sub can ask her dom to remove the collar at any time. She should know though, that if she does ask her dom to remove the collar, there may be some negative consequences for her or for the relationship.

Slave Collar

Think of this stage as the wedding ring: The ultimate commitment to BDSM and a symbol of a dom´s established ownership. At this stage, the likelihood of being permitted to remove the collar is slim to none. The slave collar is considered to be a symbol of permanence unless, of course, you manage to really piss your dom off!

Other types of collar include play collars, which may be used for a single role play or a short-term play; posture collars, which can serve up training and discipline through restricted movement; and day collars, which serve as a daily reminder of a sub´s relationship status when they are out with their BDSM community.

Although not as underground and mysterious as it once was (no thanks to the fashion industry cashing in on the concept), it is worthwhile speaking to someone and doing your research. If you find yourself at an event and you ask politely, most people will be happy to tell you more or help you to understand. What you should remember though, is that these collars are highly personal and should never be touched without explicit permission. Respecting the BDSMcollar.shop is the first step towards earning it.

Tell Daddy What You Want: Exploring the BDSM Little

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On November 21, 2018

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For some people, it is difficult to understand the appeal of bringing your inner child out in the bedroom. Hopefully, this article can clear up any questions you have about the idea – and you might want even to give it a go. Not to be confused with Adult Baby/ Diaper Lover (ABDL) practices, littles in DDLG have more emotional and physical investment in this particular kind of submission.

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What’s A Little?

A little is someone who takes on the persona of someone much younger, usually for a few hours or so. When they are in character, they can be found in what is known as their ´little space´ and this space provides a platform for them to be submissive to their daddy dom. This power dynamic most commonly plays out in the Daddy Dom/ Little Girl (DDLG) subcategory of BDSM. However, it doesn’t necessarily involve sex.

What Do They Do In Little Space?

When they are in this space, the little might wear childlike clothes (e.g., unicorn pajamas or a mini mouse dress), carry around childlike toys (e.g., teddy bears) and may even talk in a high pitched or childlike voice (they might also add in a playful lisp). Space allows them to throw tantrums or to get hyper, and due to the nature of the play, you might find that they are generally quite needy little middens. Their primary goal is to be childlike, so they no longer think as an adult would. Some might be shy; some might be the opposite – it all depends what kind of persona you want to adopt in your space.

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What Ages?

Littles can be aged from toddlers to pre-teens, and this can be fixed or fall within a range (e.g., between 3-5). Of course, there are those who are age players and those who are not. For the latter, it is about a permanent mindset and more of a lifestyle choice, whereas others can turn their little on and off. They do so depending on where they are, who they are with and perhaps even what time of day it is.  
Not quite as young as adult babies, it is more common in the older littles (i.e., those closer to 11 than 2) for the play to become sexualized. This is when bondage and other BDSM activities may be introduced.

What Do They Wear?

The childlike persona may be shared through clothing or their behavior. They might wear short skirts, animal prints (we’re not talking leopard print here) or they might be watching cartoons, playing with dolls or working through a coloring book.

 

Sex Dolls: What You Need To Know

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On October 30, 2018

In Blogging

Introduction

Do you want to reach a high level of orgasm during masturbation? Then, why not have a sex doll as your partner in bed. A sex doll or blow up doll has the shape and features of a sex partner. You can see a mouth, anus, vagina and even a big dick! The parts of these sex dolls are vibrating and are interchangeable.

So, it fits your preference in giving you a pleasurable time. The sex doll vibrates that adds to the excitement while you’re touching your cock. Imagine a cold night in bed with a sex doll. This sex toy would surely spice up your night.

Get ready to feel an extreme orgasm as a sex doll would heat up your night. You would certainly moan with joy while the precious juice from the penis comes out!

Since there is a variety of sex dolls in the market, you can select which doll material you want. You can select a silicone, TPE or a rubber doll.  The selection depends on your choice.

But, you would be surprised that sex dolls offer more than an aid for your masturbation. Any guess?

Here are the other reasons why you need a sex doll in bed:

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Allows Great Stimulation

I guess watching a porn video isn’t enough anymore.  More people are using sex dolls as their sexual partner. Oh yes! The fun starts when you hold your penis and enjoy! People can experience a pleasurable time they never felt before.

A sex doll would take care of that. So, be ready and savor the best night of your life with a sex doll.

Improves Sex Performance 

So, your girlfriend doesn’t like the sex positions you’re doing? Don’t worry about it buddy! You can level up your performance by using a sex doll. You can experiment on the right and unique moves that your sweetheart would love.

The sex doll allows you to be adventurous and wild in bed so fucking hard! Who knows, you might sleep with the sex doll more than your girlfriend. I’m just kidding!

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Ejaculation and Orgasm Control

Are you having problems with premature ejaculation every time you have sex? Don’t blame yourself too much! You can have improvement by using a sex doll. You can control your orgasm by experimenting with the sex doll.

You would be relieved to find out that session you have with the doll is extreme. You take the chance and solve your sex issues today in using a sex doll. You might be a sex expert and give your partner a great time.

Sex Freedom

Don’t be a bad boy when you’re girlfriend is away! You can still have sex – with a sex doll that is. This sex device is ideal if you want to have a pleasurable time. Think: you would have a high-level orgasm without cheating on your girl.

The sex doll gives you the freedom to enjoy sex at the best level possible. You might even learn a few moves in using the doll. Now, that’s satisfaction that you wouldn’t forget. Why take a sex doll now and see the results it can give you.

Remember: you choose high-quality materials such as silicone. For sure, you can have a pleasurable time!

Fulfill Your Sex Drive

Don’t be guilty if you’re libido is higher than your partner. You can have sex with a doll if she doesn’t want to do it. Here, you don’t resort in cheating your wife or girlfriend. You let your imaginations sink in, and the fun is yours.

The sex doll is a great alternative to for you to discover sex moves that you haven’t done before. Your partner would be surprised the improvement you would make in your next sex. She might even get jealous and have sex with you each night.

You Get Pleasure and Comfort 

One thing is for sure: you wouldn’t feel exhausted in using a sex doll.  Why? Since its parts are interchangeable, you don’t have to hold firm on something when you ejaculate. Usually, you can get exhausted when you’re about to climax. 

Say goodbye to an exhausting moment because it wouldn’t happen. The doll assures you that you would be comfortable in using it. There’s no pain here but only pleasure. Come and give a sex doll a try!

10 Bad Lifestyle Habits that you must Quit

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On October 7, 2018

In Healthy lifestyle

We develop certain bad habits over time. We don’t think about the consequence of it. These lifestyle habits can affect your health in the long run. Here are some bad lifestyle habits that you must give up.

Eating snacks all the time

If you don’t respond to the body’s natural hunger, you will start overeating. Eating snacks all the time can make you fat and you may suffer from heart disease, diabetes, and other conditions. You should avoid eating fast foods.

Watching TV for a long time

When you sit on your couch to watch TV for long hours, you are not doing any physical activity. You will get overweight and may suffer from type 2 diabetes. People also tend to eat more when they watch TV. So, you shouldn’t watch TV more than two hours a day.

Overspending

As credit cards are easily available now, people often spend more than they have to. So, they easily get into financial debts. This can cause mental stress and lead to high blood pressure.

Skipping breakfast

Many people who want to lose weight, skip breakfast. It will have a negative effect on your blood sugar and energy levels. Breakfast is your fuel. So, you shouldn’t skip it.

Drinking too much alcohol

If you consume alcohol too much, it can be poisonous. It can cause cancer, high blood pressure, heart disease, and depression.

Smoking

Smoking cigarettes are very harmful to the health. It can lead to lung cancer and other forms of cancer as well. It increases the rate of heart attack and high blood pressure.

Taking too many painkillers

If you take too many painkillers for a headache, arthritis or muscle pain, the risk of high blood pressure, heart attacks and ulcers increase. Many people become addicted to it. You should give up this habit.

Nail biting

Nail biting is very unhygienic. It can lead to dental problems as well. You will feel awkward in a social setting too. Stomach problems are common for people with this bad habit.

Being around negative people

You shouldn’t be around negative-minded people. They will always complain and see the bad side of life. You will feel depressed and may not find the inspiration to achieve something.

Being late

Being late shows disrespect for other’s time. It is not good rushing for work or meeting and apologizing all the time for being late. You should practice being early. Always target to arrive at least 15 minutes before the scheduled time.

These habits are very bad for your physical and mental health. You should practice good lifestyle habits and lead a healthier life. You should encourage others to do the same as well.

5 Reasons why Good Sleep is Important for your Health

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On October 2, 2018

In General health, Sleep

We are very conscious of eating healthy food and doing exercise. But you should know that getting a good night’s sleep is equally important. Because of our fast-paced life, we often suffer from sleep deprivation. Not getting enough sleep can have serious health consequences. Here are the reasons why sleep is so important.

Better health

Sleep can improve your immunity system, so you will have less disease. The risks of heart disease and diabetes are also reduced. You might not notice the health risks of sleep loss right away. But after many years, you will realize how negatively it affected your health.

Less pain

If you are suffering from chronic pain due to an injury then good sleep can reduce this pain. In fact, you might not have to take medication pills for pain if you have good sleep.

Help lose weight

Many of you might not be aware that if you have fewer hours of sleep, you will become fat. Good sleepers also eat fewer calories. So, if you want to lose weight, make sure you get sufficient sleep every night.

Improves productivity and concentration

Good sleep can improve your brain functions. It can improve your productivity and concentration. You will perform better at work if you sleep well.

Boosts your mood

If you don’t get enough sleep, you will eventually suffer from depression. Poor sleep is also associated with suicides. If you are suffering from insomnia or obstructive sleep apnea, you should visit a doctor immediately.

If you don’t sleep well at night, it will lead to tiredness during the daytime, morning headaches, and other health problems. It can hurt your relationships with others and you can suffer from depression. So, make sure that you sleep for at least 7 hours every night to stay healthy.

6 Healthy Habits you should develop for a Better Life

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On September 27, 2018

In General health, Healthy lifestyle

Most of us try to get results fast when it comes to following a proper diet or losing weight. We try to lose weight within a very short time by following a strict diet. But give up quickly as we cannot cope up with it. Instead, if we could develop certain healthy habits then it would be easy for us to achieve our goals. Here are some healthy habits you should develop.

Drink a glass of lemon water

Every day you should drink one glass of water with lemon juice. It helps to alkalize your body. It can help in reducing the occurrences of chronic disease, asthma, and other ailments that occur due to dehydration. This habit can also promote self-healing.

Change food habits

You should include plenty of vitamins and minerals in your diet. These are found in fresh vegetables and fruits. You should eat more protein. It is good for your health and it can reduce your sugar cravings. Protein has some amazing mental benefits as well. It can boost up your mood if you are feeling low. Try to eat protein from organic sources.

Cultivate your relationships

You should always maintain healthy relationships with your family members and friends. You should engage in social activities like volunteering at a charity or doing community services. You can also join a cooking or yoga class. If you are having any problem with your spouse or other family members, try to solve the issue fast so that it doesn’t’ affect your mental health.

Exercise regularly

You should make it a habit to exercise regularly. Exercise can keep your body in shape, it gives you strength, improves cardiovascular health and blood sugar control. It also has a positive impact on your mental health. Choose an exercise that is fun. It shouldn’t be a burden to you. Rather, you should enjoy it.

Manage stress

Too much stress can hurt a person’s mental health. You need to first identify your stressors and then take steps to find a solution. You can do meditation, yoga, listen to music or talk to friends.

Good sleep

Many people ignore the importance of good sleep. It is vital to your productivity and happiness. You should sleep for at least 7 to 8 hours every night.

These simple healthy habits can help to bring back energy to your life. Practicing a healthy lifestyle is actually in your hands. You should develop healthy eating habits and exercise regularly to stay healthy. Maintaining healthy relationships and give yourself enough time to rest will make you happy and healthy.

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